Your young adult has their very own reading realm. Some parents feel excluded from their child’s reading time. And this is understandable. There is just something off-putting about attempting to have a conversation with someone who has to glance up from the pages of a book after a lengthy pause each time you ask a question or throw out a comment. Working to build your child’s love of reading can suddenly seem like a massive self-erected barrier if your teenager becomes involved in their own reading lists and leaves you out. But if you approach your child’s reading time with the right intentions, the right attitude and early enough so it doesn’t feel like an invasion of privacy it can offer you teaching opportunities that you would never have been able to work in otherwise.Feel free to visit teen fiction books for additional information.
The right intentions are sometimes hard to find. While the majority of parents claim good intentions, there are far less who actually have the right intentions. Approach your teenager with respect and try to find a way to involve yourself in their reading activities with just that intent. Don’t attempt to involve yourself because you want to find out what it is they’re reading and censor it. Don’t involve yourself out of a selfish need to know more than they do about all subjects. The right intentions in this case can be described as the desire to stay close enough to your child so you’re available for guidance and aware of their needs.
It is very doubtful that they will revert back to early childhood and enjoy letting you read to them before bed each night, but on your next car trip you might let your teenager choose the audio book for the family. Ta Da….you’ve just become involved in what was previously a very solitary and seemingly exclusive activity. Another approach that may work for you is to offer to order your son or daughter the next couple of books they’ve been dying to get their hands on and offer to read along. No, not over their shoulder…order a copy for yourself and you can read along at the same pace as your teenager. Some parents even find their teenager eager to discuss what they’re reading and if you’re reading the same thing you are a ready made discussion participant. And every teen parent has to admit that this is a heady experience.
Make sure to keep the right attitude once you’re involved in your teen’s reading time. The exposure that your teen will obtain through books allows them to think about difficult situations and decisions prior to their actual presentation in their own lives. This can be a very helpful scenario. There are way too many teens out there who made the wrong decision when the moment came simply because they had never thought about what their answer would be to a certain question or what their response would be in a certain circumstance. Young Adult Literature claims more than its fair share of controversial issues; probably because it is a representation of the situations that young adults face. Don’t lose your interest, or worse, lose control and jump on a soapbox as if your teen has done something wrong if you find they have been exposed to reading material that you find disturbing.
This is one of the very best teaching experiences you will find available during the difficult teenage years. Include the controversial issue in your discussion of the book. Find out what your teen thinks about it. Find out if they have definite opinions. Find out if they are confused. Offer to listen to what they think on the issue and they’ll be much more open to listening to what you think on the issue.